In old age, who is more trustworthy, the daughter or the daughter-in-law: A must-read story
e still see, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been unstable, and can even become the mastermind of each other's lives. This is also understandable, often mothers find it difficult to regard their stepdaughters as their own children, plus the petty conflicts in daily life make the relationship worse and no longer sympathetic! Many people ask the question, do most mothers rely on their daughters or stepdaughters in the years to come? If you want to know the answer, you need to read the following story first!
In the first case, Aunt Liu is 78 years old this year. After her husband passed away, she lived with her son. Her son often went on business trips and her nephew studied at a boarding school, so most of the time, she and her son ate together. Before Aunt Liu came to her son's house, she thought her daughter was a good, understanding, sensible and gentle person, so she would buy gifts and give them lucky money envelopes on holidays. Unexpectedly, after living together, she discovered that her daughter-in-law's previous good and understanding attitude was only because she and her husband could take care of themselves and did not bother their son and daughter-in-law. But now, she was alone, and her eyesight was not good, so she could only rely on her daughter-in-law to prepare daily meals at home. At first, the daughter-in-law still politely cooked, invited her to eat her favorite dishes, and even told her to leave them there after eating, she would clean up. Later, because of her poor eyesight, Aunt Liu often spilled things in the house, especially when she was drinking water, she accidentally dropped her daughter-in-law's expensive teacup, she was very angry and said very unpleasant things. Aunt Liu's son often went on business trips, he was gone for several months and only stayed for a few days. Aunt Liu did not want to complain to her son for fear of affecting their relationship, so she could only endure the humiliation day by day. The second case, which was Aunt Zhao's, was different. Aunt Trieu's daughter graduated from college and became a direct employee. Even, to make it easier to take care of her mother, her family bought a house in the same apartment building as her mother. This year, Aunt Trieu's daughter retired and can spend all her time with her mother. Every day, she comes to chat and eat with her mother. Usually when the weather is nice, the daughter will go sightseeing and take a walk with her mother. If her mother is tired, she will let her mother sit in the car and push her mother for a walk. Aunt Trieu is obviously very happy, she smiles happily and greets everyone, her heart is full of happiness. In fact, everyone's life is different. When the elderly and their children live together, whether they are daughters or sons, they will discover that they have different habits from work, rest to diet and attitude towards life. Therefore, to have a firm grasp of your life, the only way is to rely on yourself
First of all, when you are healthy, discuss more with your children about how to arrange your life in the last years of your life. Do not rely on them completely or ignore them.
No one knows what tomorrow will bring. If we need our children's attention in life, what should we do? If you need your child's care, you should take it for granted and let your child adjust consciously. When we can take care of ourselves, we should give each other enough space, understand the boundaries between people and pay less attention to our children's affairs. Only by discussing everything in advance can we solve everything in life better than just reacting.
Second, families with children can take turns taking care of the elderly. For families with only one child, parents should take the initiative to hire a babysitter.
When you are old and can no longer take care of yourself, you will need someone to take care of you. For families with children, the elderly should first let their children take turns taking care of them. The elderly themselves should also treat all their children equally so that no one gets hurt. If the children really do not have time to take care of them, then you have to accept hiring a maid. Don't think that hiring a maid is a sign that your children are not understanding. If you lose your temper and get upset, you will be the one who suffers in the end, and family relationships will also be affected. At this time, whether it is a daughter or a son, you may not be able to take good care of them. After all, they still have to work, do housework, take care of their children, their mental state is not good, it is really difficult to arrange their own lives and take care of the physically handicapped elderly.
Ultimately, the elderly and their children must understand and care for each other for the family to be harmonious and happy.
When people reach their 70s or 80s, most of their children are entering middle age, an age when all kinds of pressures are put on the body. If the elderly do not understand