However, in reality, this is a misconception, and in the end, not many doctors and nurses pair up. Here are the reasons why:

1.   Educational level disparity

In large hospitals, doctors typically graduate from prestigious schools, holding master's or doctoral degrees. Nurses, on the other hand, usually graduate from vocational schools or colleges, with very few holding university degrees, and even fewer from well-known institutions. In smaller hospitals, doctors may still have university or master's degrees, while nurses usually graduate from vocational or community colleges. Don’t underestimate the difference in educational background—it reflects the environment in which each person has matured, including differences in friends and family. As a result, doctors often seek partners who are civil servants, teachers, or government workers for marriage.

2.   Busy schedules and inability to care for family
This reason is quite simple: they both work together and their jobs are demanding and exhausting. This can lead to a situation where, after getting married, their children and parents may not be cared for properly because both doctors and nurses must uphold high professional ethics. They may even sacrifice time with their families to work night shifts and care for patients. It’s best not to pair doctors and nurses as a couple.

A wedding is the most important event in a person’s life, so choosing who to marry is something everyone must think carefully about. Getting married means starting a family, and after marriage, there is often no free time to focus on family matters, leading to potential struggles in the marriage. Therefore, it’s difficult for doctors and nurses to be together. Once married, they may not have the energy to focus on their family.

3.   Conflicts in the workplace relationship

There are often clear boundaries between doctors and nurses, especially in large departments, making them feel like they are from two completely different worlds. Moreover, in some departments, there are many reasons that can lead to tension between doctors and nurses. According to a survey of over 2,000 people in several hospitals, the number of doctors who fall in love with nurses is low and doesn’t even reach double digits.

On the other hand, the percentage of doctors falling in love with other doctors is higher, as they have similar educational backgrounds, positions, and many common topics to discuss. Their social circles are also similar, so naturally, the likelihood of love and marriage is higher.

In reality, marriage works this way: If there is no similarity in education and perception, and no time to care for the family, then marriage is not advisable. Because once married, gaps will surely appear, and over time, these gaps will lead to cracks in the relationship, making the marriage unsustainable.