Working from home and the hybrid work system, as wonderful as I personally think they are, have their flaws. Even if you have a dedicated space for doing your work at home, there are bound to be interruptions if you live with your partner. Especially if you have kids.
You might love your soulmate and your little munchkins with your entire heart, but sometimes, you’ve got important business meetings to attend via Zoom. And you can’t get anything worthwhile done when you’re interrupted every five gosh-darn minutes. Some people solve this issue by talking with loved ones and setting firm boundaries during office hours. Others, like redditor Lock4356899, install actual locks on their doors to keep their loved ones at bay.
The redditor shared her story about what drove her to get a physical lock in the first place. According to her, her husband of 10 years kept interrupting her with various minor requests and chores that he could easily do himself. You’ll find the full story below, dear Pandas. Grab some tea and maybe even a small bag of popcorn—it’s a fun yet frustrating read.
Working from home when you’ve got a partner and kids presents its own unique challenges
Image credits: Alan Levine (not the actual photo)
One redditor explained how her unemployed husband’s constant interrupting forced her into getting a lock so she could work in peace
Image credits: Lock4356899
Just this week, I spoke about the fair division of chores with relationship and dating expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man. He told Bored Panda that couples have to have honest conversations about practical issues like who does what chores and how the housework gets divided up between them. Failing to do so leads to resentment, unnecessary arguments, and can even lead to break-ups.
If one partner feels like they’re forced to do an unfair amount of housework, they need to speak up and resolve the issue instead of letting the tension build.
“Housework used to be seen as women’s work only, due to a man traditionally being the breadwinner and the woman staying at home all day. Yet, in today’s society, if both the man and woman are working, it’s more fair, loving, and respectful for both of them to contribute to keeping the house clean,” he said.
“On the other hand, if a man is the sole breadwinner and the woman stays home all day, many people would agree that she should do most or even all of the housework. That said, no one actually ‘has to’ do anything in a relationship,” the relationship expert explained that fairness is essential.
“A woman shouldn’t ever force a man to do housework and a man shouldn’t force a woman to do it either. Instead, the couple should honestly agree on what they feel is fair and then go with that. If it feels unfair to one of them, resentment will build up, arguments will happen and they will feel less connected and happy as a couple.”
Earlier, I also had a chat with relationship and self-love coach Alex Scot, who pointed out that having alone time in long-term relationships is essential. “When we take time to ourselves, we are meeting our own needs, feeling autonomous, and it allows us time to miss our partner. Without regular alone time within our relationships, we can become drained and even resentful,” she told Bored Panda.
Most redditors stood up for the woman and thought it was rude of her husband to distract her all the time
Source link : https://www.boredpanda.com/husband-asking-to-do-chores-wife-works-gets-lock-office-door/
