“You can tell a lot from how a man treats his mom,” Carla Abellana says. The Cosmopolitan Women Of Influence 2024 awardee sat down for an honest advice-giving session in this Cosmo Challenge episode.
Answering several questions on love and relationships, the actress shared thoughtful solutions to some common problems. For example, pursuing a relationship with a mama’s boy who puts his mother first in everything. “People would normally say ‘That’s how he would treat you.’ To be honest, that’s not necessarily the case.”
“I highly doubt that mawawala ‘yun, or mababawasan yung pagiging mama’s boy niya kapag kinasal na kayo. I’m sure matagal na siyang ganyan, and even after your wedding he will still treat her the same way and have the same relationship. Hindi mababago ‘yun.”
Her advice? Communicate. Ask him if it’s always going to be this way. “Eventually, when you get married, you’ll be his wife. Dapat meron ka na talagang involvement sa decision making. It has to take a step back, kanyang relationship with his mom. Because [as the] soon-to-be-wife, mas dapat sa iyo siya nako-confide or sa iyo siya nako-consult or nagtatanong or nagpapatulong when it comes to decision making. Hindi iyan basta bastang magbabago.”
If you sense he’s willing to change, then you can gauge if the wedding should push through. Because it’s incredibly difficult when you get married without anything changing: “unfortunately committed na kayo sa isa’t isa, there’s no way out.” She does have a caveat, though: “If you see that he’s more than willing and open to put you first, then it’s still definitely worth pursuing [the relationship].”
