You often hear strict parents excuse their decisions by saying they know what’s best for their children and that they are doing everything from a place of love. However, the person who should feel that love, in reality, feels like they are not allowed to do anything and are forced to live a life they didn’t sign up for.
There are numerous stories of when children escape such families when they grow up and they are left with psychological trauma, or they just get loose of the chain and don’t achieve anything in life. Reddit user yeasothat shared their story of a controlling father who was very strict about grades and when he found out his child would be paying for their own education, he didn’t want to hear any of it.
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Reddit user yeasothat told their extended family that it wasn’t their dad who was paying for their college tuition and that led to the dad getting very mad about it
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The Original Poster (OP) said that their aunt and uncle are paying for their cousin’s college and that doesn’t seem anything out of the ordinary as parents often help their children financially, especially when they are still at the beginning of their adult lives.
However, that is not how yeasothat wanted things to go in their family, even though they already have a college fund and wouldn’t need to worry about it too much.
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The college fund is already set up, but the OP felt that they were controlled by their dad all their life and didn’t want that to continue in college as well
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The problem lies in what that money would mean for the OP. They tell us a little bit about their dad so that we’ll understand where this repulsion towards the dad’s money comes from.
Turns out, the dad was quite strict all the time when OP was in middle school and high school. Anything lower than a B for a subject was unacceptable, the dad would approve the classes his child would take and they would have weekly meetings to discuss grades. To add to all this, yeasothat describes their father as having a temper, so that meant the OP would get screamed at and grounded quite often if the requirements didn’t meet the dad’s expectations.
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The OP felt that if they paid for themselves, they wouldn’t need to be as stressed about their grades and being yelled at
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Because the OP felt all this pressure, they decided they wouldn’t accept the money in the college fund as they didn’t want be always thinking about whether they would be yelled at for not performing the best and because they had a suspicion that it wouldn’t just mean being yelled at, but knowing their father, yeasothat thought their dad would refuse to pay anyway.
It seems that the extended family didn’t know about the situation and when the topic came up, the truth surfaced
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The OP just finished their first year of college and it seems that this topic wasn’t discussed with the extended family because when the costs of tuition did come up, their uncle asked the dad what the tuition cost.
The OP immediately interfered to prevent their dad from telling any lies he would come up with and said that the dad is not the one to be asked as he is not paying for it.
Turns out, the dad didn’t want everybody to know that their child is refusing money and scolded his child for embarrassing him
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What yeasothat said was the truth and they actually can be proud that they are able to get an education completely on their own. However, the dad had other thoughts and was really mad at his child for saying that to the family as it was embarrassing to him.
The OP answered some questions in the comments and the dad is convinced that the student is making the biggest mistake of their life. But what do you think of this story? Why do you think the dad was embarrassed that his child just wants to be independent and not controlled when they are all grown up? Tell us your reactions in the comments!
People on the internet say that they understand OP’s decision and feel like they didn’t do anything wrong just told the uncle everything as it was
Source link : https://www.boredpanda.com/college-student-embarrasses-dad-no-help-with-tuition/
