The pregnant wife went online and sighed about ‘marrying the wrong husband’. During the holiday trip back to our hometown, my husband calculated expenses, scolded me for spending recklessly, and said, ‘You don’t earn money, so you don’t know the value of money, spending without thinking, huh?’
My husband and I have been married for 4 years, with a 20-month-old daughter, and I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with my second child.
This year, we had an extended holiday, and my husband and I discussed going to our hometown for a visit. It’s a 110km journey from Hanoi to my husband’s hometown. I am pregnant and prone to motion sickness, and our older child also gets car sick and prefers to sit with me, so every trip is exhausting for me. Furthermore, we need to walk a bit and wait on the roadside to catch a bus from our house. Thinking about this in the scorching heat makes me worried.
So, I decided to check online for the cost of booking a private car. The driver quoted me 1.7 million VND per trip, including toll fees. Since it was a holiday, the price was slightly higher than usual, but I found it reasonable.
He said, ‘You can just go out there and catch a regular bus for a couple of hundred thousand VND, and you’ll be home in no time. Why do we need to hire a private car? A round trip would cost almost 3.5 million VND. Even though you’re three months pregnant, other pregnant women who are about to give birth still travel by bus without any problems,’ my husband said.
My husband’s reaction left me both surprised and frustrated. I never thought he would be so reluctant to spend a reasonable amount of money on his pregnant wife. Even if he disagreed, if he had approached the conversation more gently, it wouldn’t have felt so bitter.
I was both surprised and angry, but I didn’t dare say anything because, until now, I haven’t made any money, so I don’t have a say in our household.
I used to work, earning around 10 million VND per month. But after giving birth to our first child, because there was no one to help with childcare, I had to quit my job and stay at home to take care of our child. I thought that since I had already quit my job, I would give birth to our second child, take care of both kids until they were strong enough, and then go back to work.
I never expected that, for the sake of my husband and children, I would end up in this situation. My husband once said he would take care of everything while I stayed home to look after the children. But now, he seems to have no regard for me, treating me like a freeloader.
What he thought about it. To my surprise, he immediately scolded me, saying that I was extravagant, didn’t earn money, and didn’t understand the value of money.
That night, I lay awake crying in embarrassment, wondering if he cared about his wife and child at all. Perhaps my husband realized, so the next morning, he agreed to rent a private car to go to our hometown, but he found another place that charged less, only 1.4 million VND.
I was already fed up and didn’t care anymore. I told him to do whatever he wanted. His change of heart regarding renting a private car to go home couldn’t make up for the hurt he caused me. Now, I just hope to give birth soon, be a full-fledged mother, wait for my child to grow strong enough to go to school, and then I will go to work to escape this situation of being taken advantage of by my husband.
Immediately after sharing, the confession of the story’s author, who has a calculating husband when she’s pregnant, quickly garnered attention from the public. Alongside advice to be patient, there were also opinions suggesting that she should divorce her husband soon because if that’s his nature, he will never change. Even if his wife is pregnant with their child, and he calculates everything for the sake of a few dollars, this husband is indeed too miserly in this story.
