Frequently Sending These 4 Types of Messages Is a Sign of Low EQ

People with low emotional intelligence (EQ) often send these four types of messages.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognize and manage your own emotions while also understanding and responding appropriately to the emotions of others.

In face-to-face communication, EQ is expressed through tone of voice, eye contact, and body language. However, in text messaging—where all nonverbal cues are removed—word choice becomes the only indicator of attitude and emotion.

As a result, careless texting habits can easily lead others to underestimate your emotional communication skills. If you frequently send the following four types of messages, your EQ may be lower than you realize.

1. Replying “Whatever” or “Up to you” When an Opinion Is Needed

Avoidant responses such as “Up to you” or “Whatever” are often perceived as flexibility. However, in many situations, they signal a reluctance to participate in decision-making.

According to communication experts, people with low EQ may use these responses to:

• Avoid expressing personal opinions

• Evade responsibility if the outcome is unfavorable

• End the conversation quickly

For the recipient, such replies can create a sense of being unsupported—especially in team settings or close relationships.

2. Blame-Oriented Messages: “I Told You So”

When mistakes or conflicts arise, some people tend to text things like:

• “I told you from the beginning.”

• “You wouldn’t listen.”

• “It’s your fault.”

This communication style focuses on proving oneself right rather than finding solutions or sharing responsibility.

It reflects:

• Low empathy

• Emotional defensiveness

• A win-lose mindset that prioritizes being right over preserving relationships

Over time, this type of messaging can erode trust and teamwork.

3. Curt Replies or Frequently “Seen” Without Responding

Short responses such as “Yeah,” “Got it,” or repeatedly reading messages without replying can be perceived as disrespectful or indifferent if they happen often.

Even if unintentional, from a communication perspective this may indicate:

• Limited concern for the other person’s feelings

• Viewing communication as mere information exchange rather than social interaction

• A lack of awareness about the psychological impact of silence

People with high EQ understand that thoughtful responses help maintain connection and prevent unnecessary misunderstandings.

4. Texting While in a Negative Emotional State

Sending messages while angry, stressed, or disappointed often leads to:

• Harsh wording

• Personal attacks

Emotional regulation is a core component of EQ. When someone cannot pause and calm down before responding, emotions can fully dictate the content of their message.

The consequences often extend beyond a single conversation, affecting relationships and personal reputation.

Why Does Low EQ Show More Clearly in Text Messages?

There are three main reasons:

• Lack of emotional cues: No tone of voice or facial expressions to soften the message

• Instant reactions: Texting is often treated as immediate and impulsive

• Limited awareness of word impact: Underestimating how written language affects others

These factors make emotional limitations more visible than in face-to-face communication.

EQ is not a fixed, inborn trait. It can be improved by:

• Pausing a few seconds before hitting send

• Asking yourself, “How will the recipient feel reading this?”

• Choosing neutral, constructive language

Changing texting habits not only improves communication but also enhances the quality of personal and professional relationships.

In the digital age, messages are no longer just tools for exchanging information. The way we text reflects our emotional maturity, empathy, and interpersonal attitude.

Recognizing and adjusting these four messaging habits is an important first step toward improving EQ, building a positive personal image, and fostering more sustainable relationships.