
“On His Mother’s Advice, My Husband Put Us on Separate Finances—and Started Eating Dinner at Her Place”
“On His Mother’s Advice, My Husband Put Us on Separate Finances—and Started Eating Dinner at Her Place”

When Svetlana spotted her former mother-in-law in the school corridor, her heart started beating faster. She knew Valentina Sergeyevna had come to the parents’ meeting too—those meetings were held for the entire grade. Her daughter had just entered eighth grade, and the divorce from Andrey had happened only three months earlier.
“You’re here as well?” Valentina Sergeyevna tossed out icily, giving Svetlana a slow once-over.
“I’m Dasha’s mom—where else would I be?” Svetlana tried to smile.
“I thought your personal life comes first now.”
Svetlana clenched her jaw and stayed quiet. In a small town, gossip spreads like a virus. After the divorce, every trip to the store felt like punishment—as if she wasn’t buying milk, but auditioning for a reality show called Put the Divorcée on Trial.
“You do understand that isn’t true,” she said softly.
“Oh, of course! Andryusha told me everything.”
Svetlana went into the classroom and took an empty seat by the window. Almost immediately, her phone buzzed—a message from her daughter:
“Mom, Grandma called. She said she saw you. Are you okay?”
“Everything’s fine, sweetheart. Don’t worry,” Svetlana typed back, even though she was seething inside.
After the meeting, Svetlana ran into Marina—the mother of one of Dasha’s classmates. Marina hesitated when she saw her.
“Hi, Sveta… How are things… going?”
“Fine, thanks.”
“I’m sorry, but everyone’s saying…” Marina lowered her voice. “That you left Andrey because of another man.”
“What?!” Svetlana went still. “Who’s saying that?”
“Well… his mother was talking about it at Nina Pavlovna’s birthday. Like—you destroyed the family, and now Dasha’s living who-knows-how, eating nothing but frozen meals…”
For a moment Svetlana’s vision swam. Every evening she cooked dinner for her daughter, even when she came home from work drained to the bone.
“That’s not true,” she forced out.
“I don’t believe it—you’re a good mother,” Marina said, unsure. “But they’re also saying you can’t handle things and that you could lose custody.”
Without a word, Svetlana turned and walked out of the school. It felt as if something inside her had been scooped clean out.
At home, Dasha was watching a show, curled over her laptop.
“Hey, Mom. How was the meeting?”
“Fine,” Svetlana said, working hard to keep her voice steady. “Did they assign a lot for summer?”
“Yeah, the list is long.” Dasha paused. “Mom… why did you and Dad break up?”
The question caught Svetlana off guard. They had talked about it before, but never in detail.
“We just couldn’t live together anymore, honey.”
“Grandma Valya says you found another man.”
Svetlana froze. Something tightened hard in her chest.
“Grandma is wrong.”
“And she said you ruined our family,” Dasha’s voice trembled. “And that you don’t really love me.”
“Dasha, you know that isn’t true!” Svetlana sat beside her, but her daughter shifted away.
“Then why did you divorce? I don’t want to live like this!”
Svetlana stared at her daughter and couldn’t find the right words. How do you explain to a teenager that eighteen years of marriage didn’t shatter in one day—it simply evaporated? How do you talk about a father who, for years, didn’t truly see either his wife or his child?
“Dasha… your dad…” Svetlana stumbled. “He’s not a bad person, but living with him became impossible.”
“Why?” Tears stood in Dasha’s eyes.
“He was never home. Every holiday, every birthday… Remember when he missed your elementary school graduation?”
“He had an important meeting,” Dasha muttered.
“He always had an important meeting. And I was always alone,” Svetlana sighed. “And in the last few years he… he started saying things…”
“What things?”
“That I’m useless. That I’m fat. That I’m old,” the words escaped before she could stop them. “That no one would ever want me except him.”
Dasha fell silent. Then she mumbled:
“He said things like that to me sometimes… about you.”
They sat in silence. Svetlana felt hot tears slide down her cheeks.
The next day, her friend Olga called.
“Sveta, are you okay? I heard yesterday at the meeting Valentina—right in front of everyone…”
“I don’t want to talk about it,” Svetlana cut her off.
“Don’t be angry. A lot of people are on your side. We remember what Andrey was like—how he humiliated you in front of others.”
“Still, all anyone talks about now is my ‘personal life.’”
“Then don’t stay quiet. Tell your side.”
“Why? So I look like a victim? Or like some bitter witch?” Svetlana closed her eyes. “I just want them to leave me and Dasha alone.”
A week later Dasha came back from her father’s place with red, tearful eyes.
“What happened?” Svetlana hugged her.
“There… Grandma…” Dasha sobbed. “She started again—talking about you. She said you’re sinking lower and lower. That I’d be better off living with Dad.”
“And what did you say?”
“Nothing. And then Dad said he might file for custody.”
Svetlana went cold.
“He actually said that?”
“Yes. He said he’ll prove you’re a bad mother.”
That evening, Andrey called himself.
“Hello,” his voice was the same as always—businesslike, clipped. “We need to talk about Dasha.”
“About what, exactly?”
“She should live with me. My conditions are better.”
“Andrey, we settled this in the divorce. She lives with me and sees you on weekends.”
“Mom thinks your living situation isn’t suitable.”
“Your mom?” Svetlana barely held it in. “Seriously? And a home where a child sees her father once a week—if she’s lucky—that’s ‘suitable’?”
“Don’t exaggerate! And anyway, it’s your fault. If it weren’t for your hysterics…”
Svetlana muted the call and watched his lips moving on the screen. Same routine. Accusations. Trying to paint her as unstable.
“Are you listening?” His voice broke through again. “I’ve already spoken to a lawyer.”
“Wonderful. Do what you want,” she said and ended the call.
Five minutes later her phone exploded with messages from her former mother-in-law.
“How dare you speak like that to your child’s father?”
“We all know what you’re really like!”
“You’ve disgraced the whole family!”
Svetlana turned the phone off.
At the end of August there was another parents’ meeting—right before the new school year. Svetlana walked to the school with a heavy knot in her stomach. Over the month, the tension had only grown: Andrey had threatened court for custody more than once, and his mother kept feeding the rumor mill.
The teachers’ lounge was stifling. Their homeroom teacher, Nina Petrovna, handed out printed schedules.
“All right—this year we’re stepping up exam prep,” Nina Petrovna said, adjusting her glasses. “And we’ll also be collecting money for new curtains.”
Svetlana noticed Valentina Sergeyevna whispering to another mother, nodding in her direction. The woman glanced at Svetlana with a sympathetic look.
“By the way, about exam prep,” Valentina suddenly said loudly. “Children need a calm environment. Stability.”
Nina Petrovna looked at her, surprised.
“Yes, of course…”
“Some parents,” Valentina emphasized the word, “forget that. They only think about themselves.”
A hush fell over the room. Everyone knew exactly who she meant.
“Valentina Sergeyevna, let’s stick to the agenda,” the teacher tried to intervene.
“I am talking about the agenda! About the children!” the older woman raised her voice. “Dasha Vorontsova used to be a top student, and now look at her! Her mother broke up the family, chasing her personal life, and the child is the one suffering!”
Svetlana felt her cheeks burn. All eyes swung toward her.
“Valentina Sergeyevna, that’s personal…” Nina Petrovna started again.
“No, let’s talk about it!” Valentina pressed on. “Everyone knows Svetlana left my son. And now Dasha’s living who-knows-how. In that kind of home, what exams can there be?”
Something inside Svetlana snapped—cleanly, finally. She rose slowly to her feet.
“You know, I stayed silent for a long time,” she said, and her voice sounded steadier than she expected. “I thought I had to swallow it all for Dasha’s sake. But I’m done swallowing.”
She looked straight at her former mother-in-law.
“You say I destroyed the family? Who built that family in the first place? For eighteen years I carried everything—home, child, work. And where was Andrey? At his ‘important meetings’?”
“He provided for you!” Valentina shot back.
“Provided?” Svetlana gave a bitter little laugh. “I’m the one stuck with three loans—one for the car he wrecked, one for the renovation we never finished. He doesn’t even pay child support regularly!”
The room went dead silent.
“And another thing,” Svetlana continued. “For years your son explained to me what a nobody I was. Fat. Stupid. Old. He said it in front of Dasha. Do you think that’s normal?”
Valentina turned pale.
“Andryusha would never…”
“Ask Dasha,” Svetlana cut in. “And yes—I filed for divorce because I got tired of living with someone who didn’t respect me. If you keep spreading lies and threatening me with custody, I will go to court—for defamation. I have your messages. I have witnesses.”
She took a breath, then added more quietly:
“I don’t stop Dasha from seeing her father or her grandmother. But I won’t let anyone humiliate me anymore.”
“All right… let’s get back to school matters,” Nina Petrovna said, looking rattled.
After the meeting, several mothers approached Svetlana.
“You did the right thing,” Marina said softly. “We all knew what Andrey was really like.”
“Why didn’t anyone say anything sooner?” Svetlana asked bitterly.
Marina shrugged.
“People were afraid to вмешиваться—get involved. I’m sorry.”
Svetlana walked home with a heavy heart. One moment she regretted her outburst, the next she replayed every word in her head. How would Dasha react when she heard about the scene? What would happen now?
Her daughter met her at the door, wary.
“Mom… Polina texted me. Her mom was at the meeting.”
Svetlana sighed.
“And what did she tell you?”
“Everything,” Dasha stared at the floor. “That you answered Grandma Valya. That you said those things about Dad.”
“I’m sorry,” Svetlana sank onto the couch. “I know it’s unpleasant when we—”
“No!” Dasha suddenly looked up. “You did the right thing! I’ve wanted you to stop being silent for so long.”
“Really?”
“Of course. Grandma’s always saying awful things about you. And Dad too. And I didn’t know what I was supposed to do.”
Dasha sat down beside her and hugged her. For the first time in ages, Svetlana felt like she could breathe.
An hour later, Andrey called.
“What did you do?” he snapped instead of greeting her. “Mom’s hysterical!”
“And I’m calm,” Svetlana said evenly. “For the first time in a long time.”
“Do you realize you embarrassed the whole family? Everyone’s talking now!”
“Andrey, people have been talking about me for three months—because of you and your mother. I simply told my side.”
“Your side?” He scoffed. “You made me look like a monster!”
“I told the truth,” Svetlana said, tightening her grip on the phone. “And I mean it about court. One more threat about custody—or one more round of gossip—and I’m filing a complaint.”
Silence hung on the line.
“You’ve changed,” Andrey finally said.
“Yes,” Svetlana answered. “I have.”
For several days the town buzzed—the story spread through everyone’s circles. Some judged Svetlana for making a public scene, but many unexpectedly took her side. It turned out Andrey had a reputation: charming talk, little action.
A week later, something unexpected happened. The doorbell rang, and when Svetlana opened the door, she found Andrey’s sister, Natasha, on the threshold.
“Can I come in?” she asked, looking embarrassed.
“Of course,” Svetlana stepped aside.
Natasha turned her tea cup in her hands for a long time before she spoke.
“I came to apologize. For Mom. For all of us.”
“You don’t have to,” Svetlana shook her head.
“I do,” Natasha said firmly. “We all knew what Andrey could be like. But we looked the other way. It was easier.”
She set the cup down.
“I talked to Mom—seriously. It’s hard for her to admit her son isn’t perfect, but she won’t interfere anymore. And the custody talk—that was empty threats.”
“Thank you,” Svetlana managed.
Life gradually began to settle. Dasha went back to school, and although the first days were awkward, everyone soon adjusted. Things with Andrey stayed tense—but now he at least paid child support on time.
Then one morning Svetlana ran into Valentina Sergeyevna in the supermarket. They both stopped in front of the shelf with grains and pasta.
“Hello,” Svetlana said first, breaking the silence.
Valentina nodded.
“How’s Dasha?” she asked unexpectedly.
“She’s fine. Studying for an algebra test.”
Valentina was quiet for a moment, then said uncertainly:
“I baked some pies. Apple. Dasha likes those.”
“She does,” Svetlana agreed.
“Maybe you could come by? On Sunday?”
It wasn’t an apology. It wasn’t an admission of guilt. But it was a first step.
“I’ll ask Dasha,” Svetlana said. “If she wants to, we’ll come.”
That evening, as she tucked her daughter into bed, Svetlana thought about how much she had changed in these last months. She had learned to say “no.” To protect her boundaries. To stop being afraid of other people’s judgment.
“What are you thinking about?” Dasha lifted sleepy eyes.
“That we made it through,” Svetlana said, stroking her hair. “And we’ll keep making it through.”
“Together?”
“Yes, sweetheart. Together.”
When Dasha fell asleep, Svetlana sat by the window. Outside, rain was falling—soft and warm, a summer rain—washing the town clean, rinsing away dust and gossip. And for the first time in a long time, she didn’t feel bitterness or resentment. She felt a quiet certainty. Life was going on—and now it would be her life. On her terms.
Her phone vibrated gently. A message from Natasha:
“How are you? Dasha said she’s studying algebra. I can help—that’s my strong suit.”
Svetlana smiled and typed back:
“Thank you. I think she’d be glad.”
Small steps. Small victories. Now she knew: after any storm, calm always comes. You just have to find the strength to stay standing

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