
Facts 08/05/2025 09:58
Before the divorce, my husband cooked my favorite fish dish, I was not moved but burst into tears because of 3 bitter truths

Sweet and sour fish is my favorite dish. But when I saw it lying in the middle of the table, I didn't feel moved but felt empty, like looking at an old photo, knowing that it was once beautiful, but now there's nothing to regret.
The last meal before the trial, he went into the kitchen to cook sweet and sour fish. I was surprised because it had been a long time since he had been in the kitchen. The last time he cooked a meal for me, it was probably when we were still in love. Or maybe... never.
Sweet and sour fish is my favorite dish. But when I saw it lying in the middle of the table, I didn't feel moved but felt empty, like looking at an old photo, knowing that it was once beautiful, but now there's nothing to regret. I suddenly burst into tears, and said the words I had kept hidden for so many years: "I don't love you."
He was stunned. Not because he felt guilty, but because he didn't understand. And it was that moment, his surprise, that made me more sober than ever. I realized 3 truths that I should have understood sooner.
1. When love disappears, all efforts become mistimed
When he cooked sweet and sour fish that day, I knew he wanted to express something: a gentle farewell, an act of comfort. But contrary to expectations, I was not moved, because that action came after too many times of silence and indifference. It was like you watering a tree that had long been dead, with no life left to save.
Emotions cannot be "compensated" by one last action. It needs to be maintained every day, by presence, care and initiative.
Some people think that when they are free, when they have the conditions, when their children are grown, when their finances are stable... they will care for their partner. But in fact, love is not something to be delayed. It needs to be expressed in every small action and every day, not waiting for the "right occasion".
When I still needed him, he was not there. When I was numb, he started thinking about me. And at that time, I was no longer the me of the past.
2. Love is not about responsibility but about emotional presence
Many men and women fall into a common trap in marriage, which is that they fulfill their roles, but are not present with their hearts.
He goes to work, brings money home, doesn't drink or play around. He has never beaten me, never betrayed me. In name, he is a "good" husband.
But I gradually understand that he is a person who can fulfill his duties, but has no feelings. He lives with me, but never lives for me. When I am in pain, he says "go to sleep and it will be over". I cry, he is silent. When I am most tired, most lonely, my husband is always absent, not physically, but emotionally.
That sweet and sour fish dish is like a late test. No matter how high the score, it is meaningless. Because when I need him most, he never appears.

Marriage is not a contract to hire someone to look after the house and have children. It needs more than that, it needs a listening eye, a hug when the other person is weak, a question: "Are you okay today?"
What is emotional presence? It is when your partner sees what you are going through, without you having to say it. It is when you don't have to try to be strong all the time, but know that there is someone who always notices the smallest change in your eyes, your voice.
People often think that marriage "dies" because of betrayal, but mostly it dies because of indifference. The pain does not come from arguing, but from the feeling of invisibility. You live right next to someone, but it's like they don't exist. They don't hurt you with words, but they slowly drain your life energy with silence and indifference.
Many times I sat next to him and felt lonelier than when I was alone. That was the scariest feeling.
3. Don't wait for someone to love you the way you want, love yourself first
I used to believe that if I was good enough, good enough, patient enough, one day he would understand and love me. But no, if someone doesn't want to understand, no matter how hard you try, it's meaningless. Love cannot be taught. And people's hearts cannot change if they don't want to change.
I used to blame myself, was it because I was too demanding? Or was it because I was irritable? But now I understand, I wasn't wrong. The mistake was that I waited for love from someone who didn't have it in his heart.
Letting go wasn't because I stopped loving. It was because I stopped hurting myself with illusions. I deserved to be loved the way I wanted, not just living on a late meal as a "final consolation".
After that meal, we officially parted ways. But I didn't collapse. I walked out of that marriage, not with hatred, but with sobriety. Because in the end, the most valuable thing I learned was to love myself.
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