I could see my hands and feet trembling uncontrollably when my daughter-in-law quickly grabbed the frying pan. Upon realizing my condition, she said something that nearly brought tears to my eyes.

I sighed in relief as my feelings of shame and helplessness slowly faded away. I’m over 70 years old now. For so many years, I took great pride in being able to provide for my family—caring for my wife, son, and daughter-in-law. But now, everything has changed. Old age has left my limbs shaking, and my memory isn’t as sharp as it once was. I can no longer do the things I used to, and that makes me feel utterly useless.

 

 

There was a time when I tried to cook breakfast for everyone. My hands trembled as I held the frying pan, almost dropping it. Seeing that, my daughter-in-law immediately took the pan and said, "Dad, let me do it for you."

"No, no need, Dad. I can do it," I insisted, trying to reassure her, though my voice betrayed my uncertainty.

She looked at me with worried eyes and said, "Dad, I know you want to help, but you need to rest. From now on, just let me take care of the cooking."

I felt ashamed, yet I couldn’t argue. I sat down and watched as my daughter-in-law skillfully worked in the kitchen. I silently thought, "I’ve become a burden to my children."

A few days ago, while I was tidying up the living room, I accidentally knocked over a glass of water, and shattered glass scattered everywhere, forcing my son to hurriedly clean up, fearful that I or the grandchildren might step on the pieces.

My heart grew heavy. I know my children never complain, but I can’t accept that I have become useless. That night, I decided it was time to speak with the whole family.

"I have something to say to you all," I began, my voice trembling.

The entire family fell silent, listening intently. I continued, "I know I’m not as healthy as I used to be, and I can’t help you like I once did. I feel like I’ve become a burden."

My daughter-in-law immediately interrupted, "Dad, please don’t think like that. You are the most important person in this family. We are so grateful for everything you’ve done."

My son also expressed his gratitude for all the care I’ve given them and the grandchildren over the years. Now is the time for you to repay that love.

I was moved to the point of tears. Even though I can no longer manage the household chores as I used to, my children still respect me, and my grandchildren love me just as much as before. I sighed in relief, as the feelings of shame and helplessness gradually faded away.

Since then, I have learned to accept and cherish the moments spent with my family. I still try to help with small tasks, but I no longer feel the pressure to do everything as I once did. My children are always by my side, encouraging and caring for me every day.

Now, I understand that a person’s worth isn’t measured solely by what they can do, but also by the love and connections they share with those they hold dear. I am fortunate to have such a wonderful family, and I will never forget that.