Story 12/03/2025 10:59

The special love story of a couple with a nearly 30-year age gap makes everyone admire

 

 

The love story of Ms. Hiem and Mr. Hoan in Son La has attracted attention due to their 27-year age difference. Up to now, they have been together as husband and wife for 4 years.

At 5 p.m., when the sound of machinery at the construction site subsided, Mr. Ban Van Hoan (born in 1997, Son La) finished a day of work and returned to a temporary tent a few meters away from the construction site. As soon as she saw her boyfriend, Ms. Lo Thi Hiem (born in 1970, Son La) ran out to greet him.

Taking off his dusty protective clothing, Mr. Hoan quickly picked up firewood, lit a fire, and helped Ms. Hiem prepare dinner for more than a dozen workers.

Few people know that this couple with a 27-year age difference has been in love and living together for 4 years.

A love story formed from a comment

Receiving us in a makeshift hut with a strong wind in the middle of the construction site, Ms. Hiem and Mr. Hoan shyly talked about their love story over the past 4 years.

One day at the end of 2019, Mr. Hoan posted a photo of an empty wallet on his personal page. A few minutes later, Ms. Hiem happened to be surfing social media, liked and commented: "Really?", the young man immediately replied: "Really".

Those random comments accidentally became the thread that brought them together. "After that comment, my husband took the initiative to text and get to know each other like friends despite the age difference. A week later, we decided to meet", Ms. Hiem recalled.

The text messages helped Mr. Hoan and Ms. Hiem understand each other's circumstances better.

Her husband passed away when she was only 28 years old, Ms. Hiem single-handedly supported the family, working all kinds of jobs, plowing, herding buffalo, cutting grass, and raising four children.

"I don't think about remarrying because I'm afraid of your children and mine. If I meet a good person, I'm lucky, but if I meet someone who doesn't know how to cultivate happiness, my children will suffer. I choose to stay single and take care of my children when they grow up," Ms. Hiem shared.

As for Mr. Hoan, born into a poor family, he was sent to a couple in Hua Pang commune (Moc Chau, Son La) to raise since he was young. When he grew up, he got married to a girl of the same age but did not register the marriage. Life was difficult, he went to work in a foreign land, the couple's feelings gradually faded and they broke up.

"After going through a breakup, I became withdrawn, only wanting to love an older man because I was afraid that young girls would look down on my poverty," Hoan confided.

After understanding her situation and becoming close, Mr. Hoan asked to visit Ms. Hiem's ​​house. After hesitating for a moment, the woman in her 60s nodded.

On the morning of the first day of Tet 2020, in the bitter cold, Hoan rode his motorbike alone for 2 hours from his house in Hua Pang commune to Chieng Son commune - where Hiem lives. "That day, the family gathered to prepare 8 trays of food to eat on the first day. My husband was present as a friend, which surprised many people but he didn't say anything," she shared.

The dinner ended, the night got colder and colder, by the red fire, Hoan and Hiem confided in each other. The 1997-born man mustered up all his courage to confess his love to the woman 27 years older than him.

"At that time, my heart was beating so fast, I was so nervous that I couldn't say much, I only dared to ask: Can you be my girlfriend?", Hoan recalled that special moment.

Receiving the confession, Hiem was silent for a few minutes because she was a bit shocked and surprised. Afraid of being "cheated on", she explained her situation as a mother of 4 children, who had not dared to think about love for many years.

Listening to Hiem's ​​confession, the 28-year-old man pleaded: "If possible, let's give each other a chance". For Hoan, age is just a number, what's important is the feelings the two have for each other.

After years of being alone, longing for a shoulder to lean on, Hiem finally nodded. "I think simply, just try to love, if it doesn't work out, then stop," she shared.

The next day, Ms. Hiem told her children the story. Knowing that her mother had feelings for a much younger man, her daughter was afraid that her mother would be made fun of. But when hearing Hoan affirm that he would use actions to prove his sincere feelings, the four children gradually understood, supported and hoped that their mother would have support after many years of hardship.

A few days later, Hoan invited Ms. Hiem's ​​whole family to his house to meet his parents. The first time she came to Hoan's house, Ms. Hiem was introduced as his girlfriend. Hoan's parents welcomed her with affectionate eyes, pleased that their son chose a mature person.

"My mother-in-law likes older daughters-in-law, afraid that young girls won't be able to endure hardship and will soon break up. Knowing that I'm over 50, she is very supportive, hoping that the two of them will be happy," Ms. Hiem said.

From then on, they made their love public. Ms. Hiem called Hoan her husband and called herself wife, while her children happily called him "young man".

With the support of their families, the couple still faces gossip. Neighbors whisper and ask: "Why doesn't a young man like Hoan love a young girl who can give birth to children and have a place to rely on when they are old?".

Ignoring the world's gossip, the young man from Son La feels happy to have found someone who understands, knows how to share and care for his family.

"I need someone to love and understand, not just because of age," Hoan affirmed.

The age gap is not a barrier in love. The couple still takes the opportunity to "rekindle" their feelings with dates and drinks.

"I don't like flowers or gifts. On holidays like March 8 or October 20, the two of us go out for a simple, cozy dinner, and that's enough happiness," Hiem shared.

Not angry with each other for more than… 4 minutes

Like other couples, in life, Hoan and Hiem cannot avoid arguing. The guy from Son La is always the one to comfort each other because he is "afraid that his wife will get angry".

"We are never angry with each other for more than 4 minutes. Every time we are angry, he always makes jokes to create a happy atmosphere", Hiem confided.

Recently, when an acquaintance introduced them to a job at a construction site in Hanoi, they decided to go to the capital together to make a living, continuing to nurture their love.

When they went to Hanoi to work on a project together, many people around them mistook them for mother and daughter. Every time someone asked: "Mother and daughter?", Hiem just shyly nodded to let the matter go. But Hoan did not: "This is my wife", he affirmed loudly. That statement made her both confused and happy, because he had never hidden his feelings.

Every few months, they returned to their hometown to visit their parents. Even though she is old, Hoan's mother still sees her daughter-in-law as a new bride, taking care of her every little thing. Every time the couple goes to the city, she packs food, prepares each set of clothes...

They met when Ms. Hiem was no longer of childbearing age. The most regrettable thing is that the couple cannot have a child together.

The couple confided that they would adopt a child to strengthen their relationship, and have a place to rely on when they are old. However, that is still a matter of the future. "Right now, we want to live fully with this love," Hoan said affectionately looking at his wife.

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