73-year-old mother kic.ked out by youngest chi.ld for giving all land compensation money to the eldest son: "Please don't favor anyone!"

I have always loved my mother-in-law and have been taking care of her for almost 10 years, but I never expected her to give all over 200 thousand dollars in land compensation to my brother-in-law without telling us anything.

My name is Jack, I am 53 years old. In the eyes of my family and friends, I am considered a good son-in-law. Eight years ago, my mother-in-law was disliked by my eldest brother-in-law and his wife, and they didn’t want her to live with them. As a child, I stepped in and brought my mother-in-law to live with us.

I have cared for my mother-in-law for 8 years, and during this time, I treated her as my own mother and never mistreated her. My mother-in-law is quite nice; she helps with household chores, and she receives about $700 in pension every month, which she usually uses to buy groceries like salt, soy sauce, and oil without me asking. Therefore, I have always treated her with respect, and I wanted to take care of her until her last breath. However, what she did next shocked me to the core.

The cause of the issue is the land compensation money. My mother-in-law lived in a suburban village, and last year her land was included in a development project, so she received a total of more than 200 thousand dollars in compensation. After she received this money, she told us she had deposited it in the bank but didn’t explain how it would be distributed.

I thought our family would definitely get a portion, since my mother-in-law had been living with us for so long, and my wife thought the same. However, we never expected that all of this large sum would be given to my eldest brother-in-law and his wife. If he hadn’t been bragging about it everywhere, we might never have known.

I am usually calm, but I couldn’t hold it in anymore that day, and I asked my mother, “Mom, what’s going on? I’m your son-in-law too, shouldn’t I get a share? You’ve been living with us for many years, why give it all to him? Is this fair? You seem to be forgetting where you’re getting your support from.”

My mother-in-law responded, “You and your wife both have stable jobs and good salaries, and when you retire, you’ll have a pension. But your brother-in-law doesn’t have a stable job, and his daily expenses rely mostly on his wife. I don’t want him to suffer. As for your wife, she has already moved her household registration to your place, so she is no longer part of my family. Therefore, this money should naturally go to them.”

Her words were like a cold shower to me. While our lives are better than my brother-in-law’s, it is the result of our hard work. My brother-in-law is lazy, lacks ambition, and if his job isn’t stable, he can’t just depend on others forever.

Initially, when my mother-in-law lived with him, she had to do all the chores, even herding cattle and planting vegetables for them. All her savings went into their household. Later, when the children grew up, he no longer needed her, so he and his wife made life difficult for her, even kicking her out.

At that time, I felt sorry for my mother, and I also thought that as a son-in-law, I should be filial to the one who gave birth to my wife, so I brought her home to take care of her. For the past few years, we’ve covered everything for her — food, clothing, shelter, and transportation. Although sometimes she uses her pension for groceries, I still give her some pocket money every month.

My wife also buys clothes for her throughout the year, and we always take her with us when we go on trips. Meanwhile, my brother-in-law and his wife haven’t taken care of her at all in the past few years. He rarely visits her, and even when she’s sick, it’s only the two of us who contribute time and money.

My mother-in-law often complains to us that raising a son is useless; sons never care as much as daughters and sons-in-law. But when it comes to money, she gave all her assets to them without hesitation, even without consulting us.

I replied, “Mom, do you think that once a daughter marries, she is no longer part of your family? So why has she been living with us for the past 8 years? According to your logic, shouldn’t my wife and I be obligated to support and care for you?”

My wife also said, “Mom, you’ve always favored my brother. You’ve always thought of him for everything good. I never cared about anything, even when you were kicked out of his house. That house was bought for him and his wife by you. Your heart is truly cruel. If you see me as an outsider, then go live with him, and let him take care of you.”

After saying that, my wife told me, “Honey, today we should help Mom pack her things and take her to my dear brother’s house.”

I didn’t want my mother-in-law to stay any longer, so I helped my wife pack her belongings. My mother-in-law definitely didn’t want to go to my brother-in-law’s house, but I didn’t know how to tell her this in a more delicate way.

When we took my mother to his house, my brother-in-law and his wife happened to be there. At first, they smiled, but when they saw my mother and the luggage, their smiles quickly disappeared.

My brother-in-law asked worriedly, “What’s going on? Why are you bringing mom back?”

My wife replied, “You both should take care of mom together.”

My sister-in-law raised her voice and said, “She’s been living fine with us, why send her back without asking us first? Our house is too small, she can’t stay here.”

I immediately responded, “Didn’t mom just give you the land compensation money? If the house is too small, then buy another one. After all, you’ve taken so much money from her, don’t try to avoid your responsibility.”

My sister-in-law argued, “Mom can distribute her assets however she likes, but you as her daughter still have the obligation to take care of her in her old age.”

My brother-in-law and sister-in-law are both unreasonable, and I didn’t want to waste time arguing with them. After saying what needed to be said, my wife and I left.

Later, my brother-in-law came to see us several times and said that my mother was unhappy living at their house and asked us to bring her back. I told him, “If you want me to take Mom back, then you need to share half of that money, or there’s no point in discussing this.”

However, he always prioritizes his own interests, so there was no way he would agree to my request. When he realized he couldn’t change our decision, he never came to our door again.

In the following time, we heard that my mother wasn’t doing well at their house. Every day, she was very upset. She wasn’t beaten, but she was frequently scolded and mistreated by her children.

I felt quite sad, but I never thought about bringing her back because, after all, this is the consequence she has to face.

In my opinion, parents’ favoritism is inevitable, but we must maintain a strong sense of balance. Otherwise, it will affect the relationship between parents and children, and sometimes children’s ingratitude stems from the parents’ inability to handle the situation harmoniously.